For the Girls

They Don’t Know

February 11, 2014

The summer of 2001 was the best summer of my life.  It was a sticky hot summer spent with the “Summer in the City” missions project team in Chicago.  Having never done anything like that before, I didn’t know what to expect but I was so excited to see what the summer would bring, who I would meet, who I would help, what I would do.  My heart and my motives were set; I wanted to go and do whatever I could to help.  One of the principles that governed our time was this:  “People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.”  I think the same applies to the work we aspire to do with our girls.  Our hearts and motives are pure, we want to help, we want good lives and good things for our girls and we are willing to do whatever we can to help.  This is beautiful.   The trouble is, we get so eager to volunteer, be a Big Brother or Big Sister, mentor, change a young girl’s life, “help” and “save” that we forget to just be there.  Show up.  Pay attention.  Find out what she likes to do, eat, talk about and then do it.  Spend time enjoying her and the change will come.  As long as we focus on the work of our hands, she’ll have to work to trace it back to the love in our hearts.


Photo Credit:  Jamaica Gilmer for The Beautiful Project