#dearblackgirl: Be brave, but have Grace.

It’s a new week, which means we are back with a new #dearblackgirl letter for you! We hope these letters are blessing you and the young women in your life. Feel free to visit previous letters as well. Today’s letter is by Tanya Hicks who hails from Brooklyn, NY. We’re grateful for Tanya for sharing her words of wisdom and taking up her pen. Enjoy!

Dear Black Girl,

I greet you in the beauty of respect, love, honor, and grace.  Let me start by saying, I am so thankful for this opportunity to talk to you.  I wish someone had done the same for me.

Beloved, one day you will become a grown woman and find yourself dancing through countless journeys of your life without apology.  It will be great; however, don’t rush to get there because you could possibly miss out on your childhood and teenage years.  So, slow down and take one day at a time and enjoy every chapter of your life as it unfolds.  Pay close attention to the things that make you happy, joyful and inspire you the most.  Be brave but at the same time have grace.  Remember to treat others as you wish to be treated.  Also, pay attention in school, study and don’t ever be afraid to raise your hand when you don’t understand something.  There are no stupid questions.  If you ever get stuck and find yourself dealing with challenging things and people, always remember what others say about you really doesn’t matter, because you are smart, courageous, brave, kind, and beautiful and there isn’t anything anyone can do about it.  Oh, don’t forget to plan for college. Yes, start now, don’t wait until high school.  Start asking your parents about colleges that feed your passions. I promise college will afford you opportunities beyond your wildest dreams.

Let me share something else with you, you may not resemble any of the models in the magazines or any of your favorite celebrities or musicians and that is okay.  YOU DON’T HAVE TO!  Beauty comes from within.  You are unique and beautifully and wonderfully made by GOD.  Your shape, size, color or hair type will never determine your beauty.   What you possess on the inside is what will shine through on the outside.

As a woman, I have learned that I teach people how to treat me by what I allow, what I show and what I reinforce.  I want you to think about that and carry that with you on your journey.  I think it will keep you grounded.  It certainly has done so for me.  And, never ever take anyone for granted, because they may turn out to be someone you may need tomorrow.  It’s important that you are always mindful of how you treat people and how they treat you. Now, be blessed, create a life for yourself that is positive, contagious and a blueprint for others to follow.  “Shine bright like a diamond!”  Illuminate the world with your grace and encourage other girls that look like you to do the same.

P.S. don’t entertain drama, it ages you.


Tanya Hicks

Post #5-Tanya Hicks_Profile pic 2015Tanya Hicks is 41 years old, and Office Coordinator, and lives in Brooklyn, NY. 

I feel like Harriet Tubman, except I am trying to free people through underground music, to free themselves creatively and inspirationally.  ~Janelle Monae




Photo Credit:  Jamaica Gilmer for The Beautiful Project