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#dearblackgirl: Love the woman you will become.

May 3, 2016

Happy May, beautiful people. Here is a new #dearblackgirl letter written by Vanessa Thomas. Thanks Vanessa for taking up your pen!

Dear Black Girl,

I want you to love yourself. Love the skin you’re in. Love the woman you will become. Know that you are beautiful and that God has done something incredible when he made you.

Don’t allow the ugly parts of society try to dictate who you are. One thing they can’t take away is the fact that you are filled with self love that is only a reflection of God’s light shining through you.

Walk through life with your head held high and a smile on your face. Exude confidence and you will go places. Be sure to also share a little of your light with other brown girls. Say hello to strangers because you never know, you could make someone’s day.

Don’t rush through life. I remember when I was young and couldn’t wait. Couldn’t wait to get to high school. Couldn’t wait to get to college. Couldn’t wait to be an adult. And now that I’m here, I regret taking some of my youth for granted.

I wish I would’ve slowed down and took my time on some things. Slowed down by not giving my virginity away at the tender age of 14 to someone who didn’t respect me or not working two jobs in high school when it wasn’t necessary.

I know it’s important to plan for the future but make sure you’re intentional about right now. Enjoy this very moment you’re in and embrace the things you have to be thankful for.

And lastly, don’t ever give up. Truth is life is hard. And sometimes even when you think you’ve got it all figured out there will be something else that will try to pull you back down.

I say this as a woman who has survived two layoffs before the age of 26. I followed my dreams. Worked hard. Broke stereotypes. And survived being the only African American on staff at 3 laboratories only to be on a constant fight for stability.

I say don’t give up as a girl who has struggled with anxiety and depression who once questioned her purpose on this earth.

Life is tough, yes. But the fact is I didn’t give up just because I got knocked down. I persevered and pushed forward and because of that God has opened doors no man can shut! I didn’t give up and you shouldn’t either.

In the event you haven’t heard it enough, you’re beautiful, you’re worthy, you’re good enough, I love you. And know that it’s true.


A black girl who grew up and finally saw herself the way God sees her.

Post #30-VanessaThomasVanessa Michele is a 26 years old Forensic Scientist from Winston Salem, North Carolina.

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